NLP Anchoring_The Basics Part 3
If you have been following along by way of actual practice sufficient time has passed since the presentation of Part 2 for you to move forward in achieving mastery of Anchoring. If you have been simply reading the Anchoring articles and not practicing then it is suggested that you engage in some practice of the method before continuing to read further. It cannot be stressed too often that NLP is an activity, a way of creating an expanded and ultimately more useful and productive World view. In order to get anywhere with NLP the key is to “do” NLP on a daily basis and the doing need not be some herculean effort; a few minutes each day will suffice.
Thus far, Anchoring has been presented in the form of a hypothetical … by way of a context specific example, namely, a pending deadline for presenting at a conference – meeting. Now, staying with the example, the sequence of considerations and creating the context form employing the Anchor is re-visited and the process back engineered in some measure.
As previously stated, the author finds fault with the method of learning NLP in a setting divorced from the environment of intended use. Using a sports analogy the main defect noted in most NLP instructional settings is the difference between practice and playing in the big game. The author asserts that unless a person routinely works with NLP in real time and in real World they will experience a significant amount of failure when attempting to go from formally learned skills to skill set in application. The attending sensory field in real World is much greater, more complex, and intrusive than that typically found in an artificial learning environment. Therefore, sensory overload ensues, the “noise to signal” ration becomes overwhelming and the NLP technique fails.
By “chunking down” the time spent in NLP up tempo mode a series of small successes can be obtained. The successes experienced gives rise to a corresponding increase in confidence pertaining to the NLP skill a person is working with at the time. In the beginning, it is advised to proceed slowly and switch out of NLP mode a few minutes before you think you should. It is far better to end the session early, when the success level is still high, than it is to push on and run the risk of ending a session in failure. The Human Mind (and Body) tends to remember the most recent experience and in the instant case that translates to what was last experienced. By way of example, if you have set the arbitrary time mark for operating in NLP mode at 15 minutes for a session and are getting good outcomes – results at the 10 minute mark, then cease that session and enjoy your success.
In order to become highly skilled in an activity it is suggested that a person frequently work with the fundamentals up through the mid stage of their development. Master the basics and the more complex will be easier to learn. The author often times asks a prospective student a question and the answer to which determines their suitability as a student. The question is this: “How many ways do you know how to use a hammer?” If they answer “To drive in nails and pull out nails.” they are dismissed and encouraged to think about it for awhile and then return if they still want to be considered for acceptance as a student. Much like NLP, a hammer is a tool, and the total range of potential uses far exceeds that revealed in response to superficial consideration. As NLP is on one level a highly refined skill set focused on perception, the superficial will not suffice and those who insist on remaining in low level observational fashion are ill suited for NLP.
With Anchoring, the author advocates for creating and becoming skilled in using no more than a handful of Anchors. The author’s rationale will be presented at the very end of this article. Hint: How many ways do you know how to use a hammer? Moving forward with context being the primary concern the locus of emphasis shifts and context becomes everything. In the instructional example a meeting was the context; the arena of choice so to speak. Rather than continue to focus on a “meeting” the concern now switches to identifying – extracting the salient features of an event we term and recognize as a meeting. You are going to “chunk” it down. Some specific considerations to prompt readers in this process are as follows and require careful consideration of the setting in the example. Your considerations take place in real time as created by your Mind, e.g., you are now “there” in the meeting:
Note – Please write down your first response to each question below leaving 3 – 5 lines blank under each response you provide.
1. How does the general environment appear to you?
2. Who is present in the meeting?
3. What is the significance of the meeting in terms of your career?
4. How do you envision the information presented by you in the meeting will be used – evaluated by those present?
5. What is the total amount of time you have to make your presentation?
6. Do you think – feel – believe that time allotted is sufficient for you to make a thorough and well received presentation?
Set aside your written responses to the questions for a time and go about your day. Later that same day revisit your responses and immediately before doing so take a few minutes to calm – quiet your Mind setting aside all concerns for the moment. Now, read each of the questions and your response in turn. You will make notes of how you “feel” about the question proper and your response … focus on “feelings” and not thoughts, e.g., nervous, worried, apprehensive, etc. Please notice that the example responses are restricted to negative feelings and there is a reason for this being the case. At this stage of NLP development readers are advised to work with things that present as problems or entail an element of difficulty. Make your focus overcoming hurdles in the early going as improving in areas that are is some way deficient or lacking will give you the most dramatic and positive outcomes. Later, you can change the focus to refining and improving those things that you all ready do well. For the time being, work to resolve the difficulties. Write down the feelings that naturally come into being in response to each question and your response.
At the conclusion of the drill above you have successfully identified and extracted the “heavy” elements of the experience and are prepared to fully address same through the use of your previously created NLP Anchor. You want to immediately proceed to shaping your internal perceptions toward a more positive posture. This is accomplished by going through your list once more only this time close your eyes after reviewing the final entry for each question, the list of feelings, and “fire off” your Anchor, pause for a few moments and then open your eyes. You will do this exercise for each question in turn.
Once finished set the list aside and return to your normal routine. You want to repeat this drill once a day for the next 2 days giving you a total of 3 sessions. At the end of the 3rd session you will have generalized the usefulness of your single Anchor to real World settings in which similar circumstances present, e.g., experiences characterized by stress, pressure, anxiety, etc. This means you now know how to use a hammer in far more ways than simply driving and pulling nails.